In article <***@4ax.com>,
"Bob Rudd" <***@verizon.net> wrote in message
For me though, the worst by far are the uncontrolled kids. Just because
one is a stay at home parent (mother or father) does not mean that the
grocery store is your kids' personal racetrack and playground.
Yeah, I didn't quite get that association, either. Please explain it,
At first greg, when I briefly glanced at your question a few hours ago,
my immediate mental response was "whoops, I made a mistake and stay at
home parents don't necessarily have the worst behaving kids," which I
was going to correct and apologize for, when I got to this point of
However, I've been coming back to it, in my mind, the past few hours,
as I've been away and thinking about it.
Uncontrolled kids who use the grocery store as their personal racetrack
and playground, for me, is the worst part of grocery shopping, an
activity most find mundane, even painful, but one I enjoy. The parents
are really the ones at fault for not controlling and training their
children. My POV comes purely from self preservation and my desire to
keep from knee or rod replacement in my leg.
As I thought about it more and more...... I found myself thinking if
there might really be a difference in the behavior based on stay at home
or working parents in our area and locale, which is the only one I can
actually address and use as a basis for comparison.
After thinking about it, overall, I do think that the behavior, at least
in our grocery store, does tend to be worse with kids who have a stay at
home parent with them at the time. I don't know exactly why that is but
it is, IMHO.
I shop at various days and times. I see professionally dressed people
with kids in tow who, likely, have just picked their kids up from
daycare or grandmas, etc. Other times, I see parents either whom I am
acquainted with or whom I think I can make a reasonable estimaten that
they are a stay at home parent. It's more than one's way of dress that
leads me to conclude they are a stay at home parent. It's also the
conversations I hear from them in a checkout line with others, cell
For whatever reasons, I came to the conclusion about an hour ago, that
the kids from the stay at home parent's group tend to be just a bit more
uncontrolled in our local supermarket. The differences between the two
groups aren't that much so as to make a broad statement but rather a
narrow one in terms of my observation as to separating the two groups.
The daycare/grandma pick-up kids, their parents are on a mission...get
the groceries as fast and efficiently as possible and get on home for
dinner and to kick back. They keep a focus on the kids being more
focused on their behaviors that will permit them to do that. OTOH, the
stay at home parent.... while shopping is also housework and a job, it
is also a bit more of a social outing and activity for them. They see
others and interact more while they are doing it. They linger...take
more time etc. They are getting out as opposed to the working parent's
going home. In the spirit of getting out, their kids (again in our
market which is all I can address) tend to be a bit more unrestrained
and less controlled as a result. It also becomes more of a family
outing as compared to a family chore.
YMMV and I don't think the differences in behaviors of the kids are
sufficiently different for me to consider it a more significant issue as
compared to a simple and personal observation. If I had to put a number
on it, I'd put it at 55-45 or 60-40 at max. Again remember, for me, it
all comes down to unsupervised kids who race through aisles, don't pay
as much attention as they should etc..... all adding up to potential
injuries to my knee and leg that could really become a significant
problem for me. I'm looking at it from a type of "self preservation."
Once either groups kids hit around 8 or so, I'd call the behaviors even
and pretty good in both groups. It's the 3-6 year olds, albeit from
both groups, that I carefully watch as potential knee and/or rod
replacement initiators for me if they take me down/out while they are on
whirling dervish roaming spree. It's just that I think I'm a slight
percentage safer from that surgical visit when the kids in that age
group are with their working parent.
I'm thinking of writing a satirically humorous post entitled "My